...every other, we move away from perceived discomfort and towards perceived comfort, however transient. Perhaps the gentlemen that you cite know and exploit this. The weaker someone’s psychological foundations, the greater the effect of the sirens’ music. With certain bereavements, great chunks of that foundation get smashed, leaving people vulnerable. Whether such short term comforts inhibit an alternative grieving process (and are therefore a negative thing), interests me. I have no answer. BP: I would like to finish on a basic word association, just answer each one with a few words of comments with regards to the first thing that comes to mind...